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On Meeting Conflict and the Incompatible

With Akincano Weber recorded on December 11, 2023.

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“When you can’t go forward, when you can’t go back, and when you can’t stand still – where do you go? This is your place of non-abiding. The things you love and the things you hate: these are your teachers.”

– Ajahn Chah

How do we perceive conflict? We often see it as disturbing, but this stems from a lack of understanding of the deeper connections between opposing elements. In this illuminating session, we’ll explore teachings and practices that reveal the underlying coherence in the seeming contradictions within conflict.

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