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Not-other: knowing our solidarity with all beings.

With Martin Aylward recorded on April 30, 2017.

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Dharma teachings point at the way our experience is not-self. This also means that everyone else is not-other. In this class we explore the ways we isolate and defend ourselves, and reach for and reject others, looking towards a greater inclusion of and intimacy with others as the ground for both better relationships and true compassion.

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