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Soften the hard places: opening our hearts to those we find difficult

With Kaira Jewel Lingo recorded on May 5, 2019.

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The teacher Neem Karoli Baba said, “Don’t throw anyone out of your heart.” What about people who have hurt us, or are currently hurting us or others? In this session we explore together practices that help us to transform our resentment, fear and anger toward these difficult people, and learn to open our hearts to them, moving through obstacles that hold us back so that we can be free to live and love fully. When we open to the boundless love that exists in each of us, not only do we experience profound transformation, but difficult relationships can transform as well.

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