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Asking Better Questions

With Oren Jay Sofer recorded on December 13, 2020.

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In this session author and communication trainer Oren Jay Sofer offered guidance and reflections on how to approach difficult situations like stress from the pandemic and conflict with family with more skill, clarity and compassion.

(Please note that this live stream experienced some technical difficulties, so the recording has been edited accordingly.)

Listen to the audio version below, or click here to download the mp3.

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